The Unspeakable Loss: How do you live when a child dies?
by Nisha Zenoff
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Helpful books for adults
These books cover topics such as miscarriage, pregnancy after the death of a baby, understanding and dealing with grief, and much more.
Grieving Dads: To the Brink and Back
by Kelly Farley
Grief Works
by Julia Samuel
Ask Me His Name: Learning to live and laugh again after the loss of my baby
by Elle Wright
A Heart That Works
by Rob Delaney
Bearing the Unbearable
by Joanne Cacciatore, PhD
- Beyond Tears: Living after losing a child by Ellen Mitchell & Carol Barkin
- The Unimaginable Loss: A mother’s thoughts on the loss of a child by Fiona McWilliams
- The Voice of an Angel: A mother’s guide to grief and how to thrive after the loss of a child by Marcy Stone
- Comfort for the Grieving Parent’s Heart: Hope and healing after losing your child by Gary Roe
- The Baby Loss Guide: Practical and compassionate support with a day-by-day resource to navigate the path of grief by Zoë Clark-Coates
- Shattered: Surviving the loss of a child by Gary Roe
- Confessions of Child Loss by Emily Graham
- I Promise It Won’t Always Hurt Like This by Clare Mackintosh
- Child Loss: The heartbreak and the hope by Clara Hinton
- Michael Rosen’s Sad Book by Michael Rosen
- Grieving Dad: Surviving and healing the loss of your child by Mark Seidman
- Surviving My First Year of Child Loss: Personal stories from grieving parents by Mrs Nathalie Himmelrich
- How to Survive the Worst That Can Happen: A parent’s step by step guide to healing after the loss of a child by Sandy Peckinpah
- Bereaved Parents and their Continuing Bonds: Love after death by Catherine Seigal
- Loving You From Here: Stories of grief, hope and growth when a baby dies by Susan Clark, Sands
- An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination by Elizabeth McCracken
- Life After Baby Loss: A companion and guide for parents by Nicola Gaskin (Author), Nora Leinad (Illustrator)
- Stillborn: How I grew through grief by Emma Disney
- Stillborn, Still Loved: Grieving the loss of an infant through journaling by Rachel J. Floyd
- The Worst Girl Gang Ever: 2022’s new guide to recovery after miscarriage and baby loss with guidance from experts in mindfulness, grief, therapy and relationships by Bex Gunn
- Fathers Feel Too: A book for men by men on coping with the death of a baby by Andrew Don
- Grief Unseen: Healing pregnancy loss through the arts by Laura Seftel
- Grief Day by Day by Jan Warner
- How to Deal with Grief, Loss, and Death by Richard Banks
- Beyond Goodbye: A practical and compassionate guide to surviving grief, with day-by-day resources to navigate a path through loss by Zoë Clark-Coates
- It’s Ok That You’re Not Ok by Megan Devine
- How To Live When A Loved One Dies by Thich Nhat Hanh
- The Little Book of Grieving: A pocket guide to grief by J T Talbot
- The Grief Guidebook: Common questions, compassionate answers, practical suggestions by Gary Roe
- This Party’s Dead by Erica Buist
- How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed: A journal for grief by Megan Devine
- Expecting Sunshine: A journey of grief, healing, and pregnancy after loss by Alexis Marie Chute
- Different Baby, Different Story by Joann O’Leary, Lynnda Parker, Margaret M. Murphy, Jane Warland
- Pregnancy After Loss: A day-by-day plan to reassure and comfort you by Zoë Clark-Coates
- A Bump in the Road: A story of fertility, hope and trying again by Elle Wright
- The Memory Keeper’s Daughter by Kim Edwards
- The Light Between Oceans by M.L. Stedman
- The Knitting Circle by Ann Hood
- Lessons from Neverland by Melissa Hull Gallemore
- Such Good People by Martha Whitmore Hickman
- A Summer to Die by Lois Lowry
- Night Road by Kristin Hannah
- The Acorn Winter by Elizabeth Webster
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Bereavement stories
Zbig and I never miss a birthday or anniversary for Paul. We always put something on his grave.
Bridget
Podcasts
After the sudden and unexpected death of a baby or child, we might feel a need to reach out and hear about other people’s experiences of dealing with grief. Listening to podcasts might help us feel less alone, provide us with inspiration, or give us a sense of what we might expect in the weeks, months and years ahead.
We have compiled a list of podcasts which you might find helpful. As everyone’s bereavement is unique, some of the podcasts may feel more relevant to you, whilst others are more general. Please take from this list the elements which feel supportive to you, and if you have found something helpful that has not been included on the list, please do let the support team know [email protected].
The Worst Girl Gang Ever: The Podcast- interviews with those who have gone through a miscarriage, specialists and other interesting people.
Guys and Grief- geared toward fathers that have experienced loss.
The Other Mothers -hosted by friends Elle, Caro and Jen who speak candidly about their experiences of baby loss and invite guests to share their stories too.
Voices of Baby Loss -developed by Sands, explores the impact of pregnancy and baby loss, gives you a chance to hear about people’s personal experiences, and learn more about the work being done to support bereaved families and save babies’ lives.
Still Parents -discusses how dads deal with baby loss.
Love, Life and Loss -break the silence around baby loss at all stages by sharing stories and encouraging others to do the same.
Life after Babyloss -David and Siobhan Monteith explore Life after Babyloss after the death of their daughter in 2014.
Jenni Thomas talks about child bereavement -Jenni Thomas OBE is widely recognised in the UK as a leading authority in grief support and education in relation to a child’s death and a child being bereaved. Her podcast covers many topics related to child bereavement.
Grief in Common -run by the Winston’s Wish Youth Team. The topics of conversation aim to provide comfort and make a difference to other young grieving people over the age of 13.
Griefcast: Funny People Talking About Death -examines the human experience of dealing with grief and death – but with comedians, so it’s cheerier than it sounds.
Shapes of Grief -Liz Gleeson, an Irish grief therapist, hosts conversations with people about their experience of loss and grief in their lives. Through the recounting of our grief stories, integration can begin to happen, both for the teller and the listener. Sharing these stories with each other can go a long way in normalising this human experience.
The Dope Black Dads Podcast– adult-only podcast for parents or adults preparing for parenthood.
Music
You might think that listening to sad music when you are sad would make you feel worse, but it can actually be a source of comfort and help us regulate our emotions. It can feel good to have a music inspired cry as we listen to lyrics we can relate to and feel the music tug at our heartstrings and evoke powerful emotions. Music is very personal so it can be good to create your own playlist, but we have put together a playlist that you might find helpful.
Listening to sad songs can also connect to more positive experiences like nostalgia, imagination, empathy, peacefulness and kindness.
Whether music is helpful can depend on where we are in our grief. In the early days grief, it may feel too painful to listen, so it’s important to judge what feels helpful or not. Hopefully as time goes on music can become a source of solace and connection. Many parents and other family members have also found it consoling to write poems, lyrics, and music based on their own loss experiences.
A story for bereaved siblings
A story for bereaved families to read with their child before they go back to school / nursery.
Find support
Bereavement support helpline
If you would like the opportunity to talk freely, for as long as required, with a sympathetic and understanding listener, please contact us via our bereavement helpline or send an email.
Befriending support
Befriending is a listening support service that we offer to bereaved family members.