Two pairs of baby boots on a shelf

If your child was a twin or multiple, you may feel that you are not able to grieve properly for the one who died. You have the surviving child(ren) that need your love and continued caring with day-to-day routines, leaving you with little time for your own emotions. Your feelings will also be mixed because your surviving child(ren) are a constant reminder that there should be more.

Your doctor or the hospital may suggest that your surviving child(ren) go into hospital for tests, although it is extremely rare for siblings to die. If your child was under a year old, you may also want to speak to your midwife, health visitor or paediatrician about joining your local Care of Next Infant (CONI) scheme where you can receive extra support and reassurance.

Anniversaries such as birthdays may be especially poignant. It is important, as your surviving child(ren) grow that they know that they had a brother, or sister, sharing your memories and photographs may help.

You may find it useful to visit The Twins and Multiple Birth Association (TAMBA) website who also offer bereavement support including support groups and Befrienders specifically to parents who have lost one or both twins, or multiples.